Here is my theory of relationship. We live out our relationships in a hologram. For example – if a hologram of a rose is cut in half and then illuminated by a laser, each half will still be found to contain the entire image of the rose. And so it is for each of us. Let’s say for the purpose of this FB entry that as a child Ruby’s parents were both attentive to her needs. Attachment theory dictates that you need both availability as well as responsiveness to be fully met. Let‘s go back to Ruby and her mom and dad. Ruby’s mom scores a 7/10 on the attachment scale and her dad is scores 8/10. Ruby will be one lucky girl in life , because chances are Ruby will be attracted to women (if she’s really lucky!!!!) who will treat her as her parents have. Conversely, if your parents score low on the attachment scale,then you will probably spend your life with women or men who replicate the opposite of healthy attachment. So where does that leave me? Fucked ten ways to Denmark. I know that last sentence doesn’t make sense, but I like it and just demonstrates how truly fucked up I am.

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